Our unconscious is probably involved when: Everything looks fine on the surface but something is still bothering you. You just can't make a decision. You freeze and stop moving forward for no apparent reason. You've tried and tried to make something happen and it just doesn't. Things aren't so bad, but you feel … [Read more...]
Create Your Own Apprenticeship
Is your true work something that hasn't exactly been done before? Do you want to learn skills in helping people, but don't know which model to use - teaching, coaching, therapist, etc? Maybe none of them feel quite right? Do traditional trainings feel boring, too structured, or not adequate to prepare you for what you truly … [Read more...]
Reclaiming Your Holidays
It's a lazy post-gorging tryptophan-sleepy kind of day. And I want to say something about "The Holidays". Which is that you have a choice about how you do them. I know a lot of people don't like "The Holidays". They get depressed, or overwhelmed, or burned out, or just hate the whole thing. I get it. I have my share … [Read more...]
The Art of Deep Transitions
Completing a major project (or job, or other major part of your life) and letting yourself move on involves: recognizing that you are "done" giving yourself permission to be "done" actually completing the thing When and why is it hard to recognize and accept when you are done? If you think you ought to not be … [Read more...]
You Don’t Have to Be Epic
This is a comment on Charlie's post Do Epic Shit. (Note: I'm not disagreeing with the post, I'm just adding another voice. Different people need different messages.) I write periodically about the machine we call the education system and how it breaks many of us in one way or another such that we need to work hard to … [Read more...]
Embracing Winter: Let Yourself Hibernate
Each year the coming of winter tends to hit me like a wall of bricks. Suddenly it's dark so early. Suddenly it's raining all the time. Suddenly I feel sluggish, unmotivated, depressed. My blogs go silent, my mind goes fuzzy, I just want to sleeeeep. And you know what? That's OK. Winter is supposed to be slow. Taoism is … [Read more...]
Are You Earth, Air, Fire, Water?
I was musing with a friend and colleague recently about our different styles - we decided she was like water and I was like lava - a combination of fire and earth. Fire is transformative, explosive, quick-moving, but can burn out quickly without the right nourishment. Earth is grounded, practical, always there. Lava is a … [Read more...]