When there is a mountainous problem in front of us, we can quickly go into overwhelm. From this state of mind, a solution is not going to appear. If you've been wrestling with a seemingly impossible problem, let it be for awhile and focus on strengthening your relationship with your inner resources--your clarity, … [Read more...]
Strategic-ness vs. Happiness
As you learn more about business, you might find your focus becoming more strategic. How do I get more sales? Maximize my time? Expand my network? Meet the goals I set? While there are benefits to asking these questions, there are also huge benefits to coming from a non-strategic state of mind. You ask different … [Read more...]
When Things Are Out of Control
When something feels out of your control, it usually is. The thing that is out of control may be a real, horrible thing in your life, or it may be just that gnawing anxiety about the uncertainty of the Universe. Either way, there is often away we make it worse by holding on and trying to control it, when we really … [Read more...]
The Myth of Trying to Become a Better Person
Do you feel guilty because you don't eat organic veggies? Or have a regular exercise routine? Or write every day? Or some other ideal that you carry around that you have never quite gotten yourself to do? On the outside, these would be positive changes. They would make you feel better, look better...be better? Well, … [Read more...]
You Don’t Need to Whip Yourself to Create Results
When you have made mistakes, or are in a desperate place, it's easy to fall into the habit of criticizing yourself or beating yourself up. There is often a voice that says something like, "I need to beat myself up to keep myself on track. If I don't, I might become lazy or worse and then I'd REALLY be in trouble." So you … [Read more...]
Does God matter? How to listen to the subtle harmony of life.
This is how I define God: a felt sense of the interconnectedness of everything to everything else, and the subtle harmony that runs through it all. And the "felt" part is what I want to talk about here. Things are interconnected whether you feel it or not. And that field of interconnectivity is there whether you sense it … [Read more...]
How Hope Can Hinder Joy
Hope can be a wonderful thing, but for many of us it has been a coping skill, not a living skill. Hope is a feeling that a desire will be fulfilled someday. Hope can be good if you are just coming out of despair. Hope can be that motivating factor where you realize you really can have a beautiful, prosperous, joyful … [Read more...]
Why Life is Difficult and What to Do About It
I was browsing in the library today and a book on the Kabbalah jumped out at me. Now I thought Kabbalah was this arcane thing with strange symbols and a lot of numerology. So not! This book totally clicked something into place for me around why life is difficult. So the whole idea of "we have to suffer to learn" never … [Read more...]
Stop Forcing Yourself to Do Things
Whenever we are engaged in an activity that we don't want to do, we are acting in opposition to ourselves. Part of our energy is going towards doing the activity. And part of our energy is going towards resisting doing the activity. This energy shows up in procrastination, inner disharmony, suppression activities … [Read more...]
Goal Mentality vs Play Mentality
Sometimes I get lost in focusing on money and business and lose sight of my playful side. I start feeling grumpy and sluggish and think "Why am I so obsessed with money?" But the truth is I'm not: money is this great game to me, as long as I'm connected to my sense of play with it. If I'm not connected, then it's just … [Read more...]