When there is a mountainous problem in front of us, we can quickly go into overwhelm. From this state of mind, a solution is not going to appear. If you've been wrestling with a seemingly impossible problem, let it be for awhile and focus on strengthening your relationship with your inner resources--your clarity, … [Read more...]
Strategic-ness vs. Happiness
As you learn more about business, you might find your focus becoming more strategic. How do I get more sales? Maximize my time? Expand my network? Meet the goals I set? While there are benefits to asking these questions, there are also huge benefits to coming from a non-strategic state of mind. You ask different … [Read more...]
When Things Are Out of Control
When something feels out of your control, it usually is. The thing that is out of control may be a real, horrible thing in your life, or it may be just that gnawing anxiety about the uncertainty of the Universe. Either way, there is often away we make it worse by holding on and trying to control it, when we really … [Read more...]
The Myth of Trying to Become a Better Person
Do you feel guilty because you don't eat organic veggies? Or have a regular exercise routine? Or write every day? Or some other ideal that you carry around that you have never quite gotten yourself to do? On the outside, these would be positive changes. They would make you feel better, look better...be better? Well, … [Read more...]
Practical Methods of Accessing Your Unconscious
Our unconscious is probably involved when: Everything looks fine on the surface but something is still bothering you. You just can't make a decision. You freeze and stop moving forward for no apparent reason. You've tried and tried to make something happen and it just doesn't. Things aren't so bad, but you feel … [Read more...]
Create Your Own Apprenticeship
Is your true work something that hasn't exactly been done before? Do you want to learn skills in helping people, but don't know which model to use - teaching, coaching, therapist, etc? Maybe none of them feel quite right? Do traditional trainings feel boring, too structured, or not adequate to prepare you for what you truly … [Read more...]
You Don’t Need to Whip Yourself to Create Results
When you have made mistakes, or are in a desperate place, it's easy to fall into the habit of criticizing yourself or beating yourself up. There is often a voice that says something like, "I need to beat myself up to keep myself on track. If I don't, I might become lazy or worse and then I'd REALLY be in trouble." So you … [Read more...]
Reclaiming Your Holidays
It's a lazy post-gorging tryptophan-sleepy kind of day. And I want to say something about "The Holidays". Which is that you have a choice about how you do them. I know a lot of people don't like "The Holidays". They get depressed, or overwhelmed, or burned out, or just hate the whole thing. I get it. I have my share … [Read more...]
The Art of Deep Transitions
Completing a major project (or job, or other major part of your life) and letting yourself move on involves: recognizing that you are "done" giving yourself permission to be "done" actually completing the thing When and why is it hard to recognize and accept when you are done? If you think you ought to not be … [Read more...]
Does God matter? How to listen to the subtle harmony of life.
This is how I define God: a felt sense of the interconnectedness of everything to everything else, and the subtle harmony that runs through it all. And the "felt" part is what I want to talk about here. Things are interconnected whether you feel it or not. And that field of interconnectivity is there whether you sense it … [Read more...]