I subscribe to a daily quote about the Law of Attraction and this morning it was: We would like you to release the word "achieve" or "earn" from your vocabulary and from your understanding, altogether, and we would like you to replace those words with the word "allow". You're wanting to allow your Well-being, not achieve … [Read more...]
Working With Inner Resistance 101
Resistance is when there is something you "know you should do", but you don't seem to get it done. Something you want to do (or at least some part of you wants to do), but for some inexplicable reason, you can't get it to happen. Maybe it's something you want to do for yourself personally - some aspect of self-care. … [Read more...]
De-emotionalize a problem so you can deal with it more effectively (using EMT)
This post is kind of a book review and kind of a technique review. Yup, it's a lazy winter hibernation blog post. EMDR = Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. EMT = Eye Movement Technique. It's a thing. Here was my first response to EMDR: Huh? Moving your eyes back and forth? You've got to be kidding … [Read more...]
My Adventures With Ambition: Healing My Need to Belong
I've been playing around with my fears of biggification over the past month or two and I've come to some conclusions. And I'm not afraid anymore. Here's what I learned: I was really afraid of myself. I was afraid I would get latched onto the idea of being "biggified" and start doing inauthentic things to try to be … [Read more...]
How to Make Blogging Awesome
I think I'm finally getting this blogging thing. How to make blogging suck: Think you need to sound like you know "what you are talking about" and then don't write because you can't think of anything really profound to say. Hide out in your posts. Don't write what is really going on for you or what you are … [Read more...]
Fear of Biggification Part II: The Unresolved Stuff
Note: This is a follow up post to My Gnarly Cave-Like Fear of Showing Up Bigger In The World). There are two fears I am still working through around showing up bigger in the world. Fear #1: People will only like me for my coolness, not for me. This is a weird fear. It goes like this: As a kid, I found it very hard to … [Read more...]
My Gnarly Cave-Like Fear of Showing Up Bigger In The World
About two months ago I was at a Biznik networking-in-the-park thing where we each looked at what we needed to do to become more "visible". To show up bigger in the world. And we drew it with crayons and pens. (Have I mentioned how much I love Portland?) When I asked internally what I needed to be more visible, the … [Read more...]
Fear: Should You Bulldoze Through It?
Havi started a conversation about fear yesterday. My other business-spirituality-buddy Mark posted a response. Here's mine! (Isn't blogging fun?) This is in response to David's comment: I guess I’m a little thrown off because it seems like every way of dealing with fear is appreciated and supported… except bulldozing … [Read more...]
Differentiating Your Goals From Your Heart’s Desire
A year or so ago I made a document called "My Heart's Desire", and listed what I wanted out of life. I just came across it and decided to update it. I'm struck by the difference. The one I made before focuses a lot on what I want to get. And they are mostly things I didn't have yet (a business that runs itself … [Read more...]
The Importance of Blind Faith
There are two types of faith:* Blind faith is when you act as if something is true, when you don't have any evidence of it being true (yet). Understanding faith is when you've experienced what you believe in, at least to some extent, and you believe because you have experienced how it works. You might also have had … [Read more...]