Sometimes I have a voice in my head that goes, "What is the point? Why bother?" when it comes to self-promotion, and sometimes it even grows to engulf doing anything creative. I met with my MasterMind group yesterday and we worked on this voice in regards to self-promotion. It says: "What's the point? Nobody cares what I … [Read more...]
Have Resistance to Social Media?
Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Biznik, blogs, comments, status updates, “friend”ing, fan pages...aaah! Where does it end? Do you find yourself avoiding social media, or find it overwhelming? You’re so not alone. I've talked to many people, of all ages, highly technical and not, and it's a common issue. What if you are … [Read more...]
Introversion and the Expectation of Online Socialness
Sometimes I just can't go full speed with the socializing, online or otherwise. Part of why I created my own business was so I could spend long stretches of time doing my own thing. Alone. No contact with people, not even email contact. Not even Twitter. Perhaps especially not Twitter. I really prefer a few in-depth … [Read more...]
When Comments Bring Up Your Stuff
I've gone through a long process healing my relationship with comments, and I want to describe it because I'm guessing it's something others go through. Fear and anticipation, approval and validation When I first started blogging four years ago, I didn't have online buddies, I didn't have Twitter, and consequently I … [Read more...]
My Adventures With Ambition: Healing My Need to Belong
I've been playing around with my fears of biggification over the past month or two and I've come to some conclusions. And I'm not afraid anymore. Here's what I learned: I was really afraid of myself. I was afraid I would get latched onto the idea of being "biggified" and start doing inauthentic things to try to be … [Read more...]
How to Make Blogging Awesome
I think I'm finally getting this blogging thing. How to make blogging suck: Think you need to sound like you know "what you are talking about" and then don't write because you can't think of anything really profound to say. Hide out in your posts. Don't write what is really going on for you or what you are … [Read more...]
Fear of Biggification Part II: The Unresolved Stuff
Note: This is a follow up post to My Gnarly Cave-Like Fear of Showing Up Bigger In The World). There are two fears I am still working through around showing up bigger in the world. Fear #1: People will only like me for my coolness, not for me. This is a weird fear. It goes like this: As a kid, I found it very hard to … [Read more...]
My Gnarly Cave-Like Fear of Showing Up Bigger In The World
About two months ago I was at a Biznik networking-in-the-park thing where we each looked at what we needed to do to become more "visible". To show up bigger in the world. And we drew it with crayons and pens. (Have I mentioned how much I love Portland?) When I asked internally what I needed to be more visible, the … [Read more...]