This is Herman. I drew him at my last Mastermind group meeting where I was asking for help yet again with my Eternal Quandary which one of the gals put succinctly as: I want to be famous but I don't want to be famous. (And by famous, I mean internet famous — known amongst biz geeks for making cool things that help … [Read more...]
When You Are Stuck: Transformation Starts With Acceptance
All emotional suffering and stuckness is caused by closing down and contracting around pain. Pain happens, and change happens - this is the nature of life. However, suffering is an add-on that we create through our reaction to that pain and change. Healing is the process of grieving and accepting this pain and change, … [Read more...]
Back to Basics: Feel Your Feelings
It always surprises me when I realize I've forgotten something rather basic and have to relearn it. Over and over and over again. Feel your feelings. All of them. All of them, feel them, as much of the time as you can. But, don't identify with them. Don't loop around in thoughts that make them worse. They are … [Read more...]
Working With Inner Resistance 101
Resistance is when there is something you "know you should do", but you don't seem to get it done. Something you want to do (or at least some part of you wants to do), but for some inexplicable reason, you can't get it to happen. Maybe it's something you want to do for yourself personally - some aspect of self-care. … [Read more...]
De-emotionalize a problem so you can deal with it more effectively (using EMT)
This post is kind of a book review and kind of a technique review. Yup, it's a lazy winter hibernation blog post. EMDR = Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. EMT = Eye Movement Technique. It's a thing. Here was my first response to EMDR: Huh? Moving your eyes back and forth? You've got to be kidding … [Read more...]
Fear: Should You Bulldoze Through It?
Havi started a conversation about fear yesterday. My other business-spirituality-buddy Mark posted a response. Here's mine! (Isn't blogging fun?) This is in response to David's comment: I guess I’m a little thrown off because it seems like every way of dealing with fear is appreciated and supported… except bulldozing … [Read more...]